WALK!

God’s will be done / inshallah
Solution – at the bottom of this post ♡ its right there, if and/or when you want it 😀
Read, smile and go on & do good ♡

~ 2 posts I happened upon below ♡ although my opinion is still SIMPLY Walk ♡

Always Look up!

Welcome to adult bullying, where mean girls are now grown women.

Who would’ve thunk it? But…it’s true. And maybe different solutions work for different people and situations; however…my mode of operation is to walk away….no RUN. . away from toxicity. A kinder way of saying an angry bitter old b***h. I don’t need to know any “whys” or “hows”, life’s too short and precious. in other words ~ too blessed to be stressed by the devil’s mess.”

“If” It’s helpful, here are the 2 posts on the subject; a different point of view … 😀

I still say… #MoveOn ↩

💕♫ ♪☮ #laugh #love remember…laughter IS the best medicine. #

What To Do When Your Bestie Becomes A Bitch

Treva Brandon

11 months ago

There are friend breakups, and then there are friend blowups. You know the kind: a falling out with a friend that turns into a spectacular flameout of epic proportions, complete with bad-mouthing and betrayal. A friendship can blow up over something as simple as a little misunderstanding, to some deep-seeded jealousy and resentment. As a result, a civilized parting of the ways quickly escalates into something so vicious and unrecognizable, it takes your breath away, not to mention a part of your soul.

Somehow, the person you thought was your B.F.F.* suddenly becomes a P.O.S.*

Been there, felt that. Ouch.

I’m sad to report that even the greatest friendships end. Even the ones you thought were rock solid and iron clad; with history and memories, unconditional love and support. A B.F.F. breakup can be worse than a boy breakup: it creates the same kind of pain, rejection and abandonment, but it leaves a bigger hole in your heart. Friend and fellow blogger Helene Cohen Bludman describes it as “her other ex.”

It kills you, but you let go, mourn quietly, move on gracefully, and try to find peace and forgiveness — with your ex-pal and with yourself.

That’s what used to happen when I was younger; but something happened when I got into adulthood: friend breakups started getting ugly.

I managed to get through my school years without being bullied. Unfortunately now with digital communication and social media, people are fair game for the worst kind of post-friendship fallout. Former friends can hurl all kinds of vitriol at you while they hide behind their smart phones and computers, harming you with emails, texts, and Facebook posts.

Welcome to adult bullying, where mean girls are now grown women. Don’t believe me? Do a Google search – there are over 15, 500,000 listings about women who’ve been shamed, intimidated, and threatened by other women.

If you haven’t noticed lately, fighting with friends in the 21st century has gotten a lot nastier.

I have this theory that as women get into their late 40s and early 50s, things change: life, hormones, aging, midlife, money, relationships, whatever. As it all starts catching up with you, the next thing you know, you’re bitter. And angry. Life isn’t fair and you’re pissed.

Yeah, been there, felt that too, but I continue to fight it and right it every step of the way because it’s very easy to dump one’s emotional baggage onto a friendship and screw it all up.

So what do you do when your bestie becomes a bitch and your breakup becomes F.U.B.A.R.?*

You do damage control.

Ask yourself: “What was my part in it?”

Were you insensitive, uncaring or not thinking? If you made a mistake, used bad judgment, or did something hurtful to a friend, do some soul searching. Reflecting on the error of your ways can bring much needed insight and thoughtfulness to the situation.

Make amends.

The fastest way to stop a friendship from derailing is saying “I’m sorry.” Take responsibility for your part. Even if you think your friend is being irrational or oversensitive, don’t invalidate their feelings or get defensive. Take the high road and be the bigger person. Conversely, if YOU’VE been wronged, accept their apologies, and quickly get back to the business of being friends.

Let go.

If you’ve apologized like hell and there are still hard feelings, then it’s time to walk away. Don’t hold grudges, don’t grovel, don’t wait. Just send your ex-friend off with love and move forward with the friends you already have — just like my wise friend Karen does:

“I don’t get mad, I don’t get even, I don’t cross you off my list. I don’t give it energy. I just make the decision to walk away, and I don’t look back.”

And when all else fails:

Assume the position and prepare for impact.

Still hoping for a peaceful resolution? Sorry, but you’re S.O.L.* The shit is about to hit the fan, so take cover. Gossip, taking sides, whisper campaigns, and breaching of confidences are just the beginning. No, you’re not in high school, but you’ll sure feel like it.

Here’s the good news though: there are still some of us out there who are mature adults. We’re reasonable, level-headed, and we don’t let a little tiff fuck up a perfectly good friendship. We talk things out, we don’t fight dirty, and we get past our problems unscathed.

In other words, we know how to kiss and makeup (K.A.M.U.)

*B.F.F. — Best Friend Forever

*P.O.S. — A Piece Of S%*t

*F.U.B.A.R. — F%&ked Up Beyond All Recognition

*S.O.L. — S%*t Out Of Luck

Even AFTER you give and give, allow disrespect unkindness and bullying to go on too long …the least you can do for yourself, your loved ones, your happiness , peace and joy in life. is RUN!

And when all else fails:

Assume the position and prepare for impact.

Still hoping for a peaceful resolution? Sorry, but you’re S.O.L.* The shit is about to hit the fan, so take cover. Gossip, taking sides, whisper campaigns, and breaching of confidences are just the beginning. No, you’re not in high school, but you’ll sure feel like it.

Here’s the good news though: there are still some of us out there who are mature adults. We’re reasonable, level-headed, and we don’t let a little tiff fuck up a perfectly good friendship. We talk things out, we don’t fight dirty, and we get past our problems unscathed.

In other words, we know how to kiss and makeup (K.A.M.U.)

*B.F.F. — Best Friend Forever

*P.O.S. — A Piece Of S%*t

*F.U.B.A.R. — F%&ked Up Beyond All Recognition

*S.O.L. — S%*t Out Of Luck

Just RUN!

Water Off A Duck’s Back: How to deal with a P.I.T.A.

Did you know that ducks have a special preen gland near their tail, that when they rub that oil on their feathers with their beaks, it makes them waterproof? That oil gives their feathers protection from water damage and extreme weather conditions as well.

Ever been around someone who just won’t shut up? I mean, that yapper that just vomits his/her opinion all over you even if you’re not asking for it? They don’t care if you don’t feel the same way that they do and can care very little about your moral beliefs, background, or political views. They’re downright passionate about their own point-of-view, speaking until their veins are bulging out of their foreheads and necks, it’s like the only opinion that makes the most sense is theirs. They’re not generally nasty individuals, they’re just close minded. To clarify, they aren’t shouting at you or even arguing with you, rather they’re providing you a a rehearsed lecture on their belief system, whether you’ve asked for it or not. They are the complete opposite of a passive aggressive person. In fact, this is the only moment in your life, even if you are a “straight-shooter” like me, that you wished to GAWD for a passive aggressive or a “stonewaller.” These people have a specific channel or channels they watch on television. They have very specific political views, and you’ll know by the end of the conversation if they believe in God or not.

Here’s the trick with dealing with emotional, passionate people who pitch their viewpoint on Mount Everest and let you know all about it. You have to understand that even if you say, “well, let’s agree to disagree.” These yappers are going off so dang much, they haven’t heard a word you said. Their tangent has prevented them from stopping for air or consider that you’re not interested in continuing the conversation. You might even be sitting there completely befuddled, because you’re not even sure how the conversation even began in the first place? They are the ones that usually bring up subjects where they’ve rehearsed their rant of a monologue in thorough detail. They can be an elderly retired person pointing at something on the television as you are nearby, then they let you have it, going off on you. They can be a young, fresh out of college know-it-all. They can be mid-30s, seasoned professional. These people can be any age, any ethnicity, any gender preference. It doesn’t matter. They come from all walks of life and can be customers, associates, peers, friends, in-laws, family, acquaintances, or total strangers.

No matter their background, they can all be a P.I.T.A. and I am not talking about P.E.T.A. (People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals). I am talking about P.I.T.A. (Pain In The A**). Here’s the thing you need to know about the overtly, in-your-face, opinionated- they are not very good listeners and definitely not the reasonable type. They will say things without taking body cues, even when you straight-up tell them, “I’d rather not discuss this anymore.” Why? Well you see, they are too busy venting on and on about their opinion, clueless if they are pissing you off. To them, their opinion is the accurate one. What do you do with someone like this? How the heck do you deal with an argumentative, combative, opinionated, extroverted, know-it-all?

If you are not too pissed off by this point, you can try changing the subject.

If you are in a situation that prevents you from leaving, you can try letting them know that you’d rather drop the entire subject.

If they are not listening, which is likely the case, then you may need to resort to being a duck.

WARNING: What ever you do, do not try and ask questions, egg them on in any way, or further encourage a P.I.T.A. This only makes their behavior worse.

I have realized when dealing with a passionate P.I.T.A., option 1. and option 2. hardly ever work. If anything, they are in mid-sentence still going on and on. You aren’t talking to a level-headed person, but a know-it-all. They will likely not shut-up, not even if you ask them nicely. If this is the case with you, you’re at option 3. You have to be the duck, floating on top of the water calm as can be, but underneath the water your feet are moving fast. The P.I.T.A. does not need to see your feet moving, all they need to see is your little duck body floating along as calm as can be. Inside, you might be ready to choke them out, no need to give them another ounce of your energy. You take your beak, get some of that oil from your preen gland, and rub it all over your feathers. You let that oil make you waterproof, let those words roll right off your back. No reason to get nasty, no reason to even tell them about your opinion, no need to get sucked into their negative energy and their need to debate someone. Remember, the world does NOT revolve around you. This is NOT about you. Someone’s opinions, beliefs, ideas, perspective in life has a lot to do with many things outside of your control.

So, quack along little duck, you got an entire pond ahead of you and plenty of oil on those feathers to make you water resistant.