Speaking Your Mind

Random Sagittarian Bluntness: Speaking Your Mind

 
The one thing we have learned over the years, and after much trial and error is to find and never lose our voices. And in this post, I encourage you to do the same.

It’s often not convenient or pretty or feel good stuff when you stand up for yourself. That’s a given. But if you think you are saving a situation or saving someone’s feelings by not speaking out, it only gets worse. You are teaching disrespect. You are teaching them that you aren’t to be valued, that your words mean nothing and that your kindness is weakness.

The moment you put iron in your spine and say enough, is the only time things change.

This is something I really had to embrace over the years…and since I have, my peace is so valuable. That peace is more valuable than anything these days.

Saving needed confrontation only reinforces the belief in a manipulator that by coercion, tantrum, or flattery–no matter what–your principles have very low value. And they will continue to push until you break or give up, because that is how they learned to play people like a board game only they can win.

If someone steps on your toe and you don’t say “Ow”, they’ll just keep doing it over and over again with bigger boots on each time.

Trip them up by tying their laces with your truth in what is fair and what will be allowed and what you will not stand for today, tomorrow or ever again.

And sometimes that means putting an exclamation point where you normally put a period.

The people meant to love you, will love you for who you are and not what they can get for themselves from you. And if you worry about pleasing the latter, peace will be a hard thing to find.

BTW…remember to LAUGH
This video “might” at least make you smile?

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PEACE

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My kids are such a blessing. My son, who’s a single dad of Lily & a great one at that…since the day she was born, took care of yard & other “stuff”, while my daughters did sides. A really good sweet potato casserole, lots of mashed potatoes, lol, fresh green beans, corn, Cranberry/Orange relish, pumpkin pie & cheesecake . …what am I forgetting? I did turkey ,  stuffing and gravy 😀

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Tight but, as Tim Gunn says “make it work”. And I made 2 turkeys.

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And OF COURSE the carcass and leftovers gets used for STOCK

or soups, etc…

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El niño que siempre fui

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Allow me to make an important opinion of mine clear; Being a woman having a baby does NOT make you a MOTHER. 

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Being a mom means more than having given birth to a child. It’s loving and knowing a soul before you even see it. It’s carrying and caring for a life completely dependant on you for survival. It’s giving air to the lungs that grew within you, and sight to the eyes that will never see you as anything but mommy. It’s sleepless nights, its nursing scratches and scrapes, it’s being stern and protective. It’s teaching them to talk, to walk and to eventually run. It’s learning to hand your child to a stranger to let them teach what you cannot at times. It’s bracing them for a fall, and dusting them off after they do. It’s seeing them cry and not knowing how to fix it, so you sit on the floor and hold them and cry right along beside them. It’s teaching them that they are smart, capable, funny and giving them the security to do great things. It’s building their self-esteem, supporting their dreams and loving them unconditionally. It’s letting them go, letting them fail and teaching them how to get back up. It’s going without so that they don’t have to, and being OK with it.

Being a mother is a gift that is unimaginable to any woman who does not have a child in their life. It’s a connection that is unmatched and insurmountable in any form or other relationship.  It’s a love that grows continually, a love that always wants more and better. It’s being terrified that you can’t prevent pain, injustice, heartbreak and at times even death. It’s laughing at jokes that aren’t even funny, but the way they say it makes it’s hilarious. It’s listening to stories that go on and on without a point. It’s always being available for the “Mommy watch me!” yells and “Mommy I need you” pleas.  It’s drowning out the word MOM repeated over and over in attempts to get your attention. Its songs sang out of tune and settling squabbles with siblings. It’s being mean, and teaching hard lessons, that hurt you inside so deep you want to cry, but you must stand strong with resolve. It’s being strong for them when you are weak. It’s smiling when you want to cry, and crying when you’re smiling with pride.

It’s looking through photographs and feeling your heart swell with love and happiness when you see the beauty, the happiness and life in your child’s smile and eyes. It’s confusion, mistakes, uncharted territory and blindfolded guessing. It’s snuggling on the couch watching a movie, braiding hair till your fingers hurt, it’s being woken up early on Saturday morning because they want to crawl in bed and be close to your heart. It’s having the worst day and having them hug you and tell you “mommy I love you”, and needing nothing more.
It’s a blessing, a gift, a relationship that never ends and a love that never dies. It’s the best thing I have ever become, the greatest love I have ever felt and the best part about being me.

The Meaning of Being a Mother
– – by Susan Diranian
The meaning of being a mother is virtually endless. A mother is a protector, disciplinarian and friend. A mother is a selfless, loving human who must sacrifice many of their wants and needs for the wants and needs of their children. A mother works hard to make sure their child is equipped with the knowledge, skills and abilities to make it as a competent human being. Being a mother is perhaps the hardest, most rewarding job a woman will ever experience.
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The Meaning of Being a Mother
The Meaning of Being a Mother
By Susan Diranian Apr 24, 2015
The meaning of being a mother is virtually endless. A mother is a protector, disciplinarian and friend. A mother is a selfless, loving human who must sacrifice many of their wants and needs for the wants and needs of their children. A mother works hard to make sure their child is equipped with the knowledge, skills and abilities to make it as a competent human being. Being a mother is perhaps the hardest, most rewarding job a woman will ever experience.

Unconditional Love
From the day they are born, a child will test your patience. No matter what they do or say, being a mother means you will love your child unconditionally.

Children who receive love and attention from their mother are less likely later on to fall in love with someone who offers love conditionally, whether with behavior control or abuse. Show your child how much you love them with hugs and kisses. Listen to your child as they recount their day, play games or slip a note in their lunch box letting them know how much you love them (Ref 1).
Safety and Security
When a woman becomes pregnant, it is her responsibility to provide a safe and secure environment while her baby grows. This responsibility continues once she becomes a mother, whether it’s ensuring her child has a roof over its head to keeping monsters away at night and everything in between. Providing your child with a safe and secure environment protects them from abuse and harm as well as help boost their child’s mental and emotional development. Provide a safe, healthy environment for children by reducing risks and stress as well as keeping an eye out on children.

Teacher and Disciplinarian
Being a mother means being there to teach your child important rules and roles of life, from being an empathetic human being to learning how to be responsible of one’s actions. As your child grows up, they are going to face an onslaught of differing thoughts, opinions and values from their friends, the movies, internet, television and magazines. A mother will help guide their child to figure out their goals and values in life as well as teach them the importance of an education, manners and more. A mother will also discipline their child, a skill that will benefit children throughout their life as well as at school, work and life at home

Parenting is more than cuddling your precious newborn in your arms, counting her fingers and toes, feeding her every two hours and keeping her diaper dry. This is the easy part. You must guide her through life, making sure her decisions are the right ones. Some of these include the manner in which she treats others. Respect for authority includes everyone from you to her teachers. Respect begins in the home and, although you may not realize it, your child must also respect herself.

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And taa daa! Today ♡

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Esta mañana, de camino a la oficina, escuchaba un programa de radio cómo preguntaban a un grupo de alumnos de primaria acerca de qué es la Constitución Española. Las respuestas, no hace falta que os lo diga, eran de lo más divertidas, como casi todo cuando te lo cuenta un niño.

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Lily, Lucy & GooGoo

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They’ve always waited for her to get home from school. They can tell time.

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It worked wonders for my purpose of getting her a puppy…it did indeed fill a void.  The same with the kitten from her daddy. LOVE …that’s all.

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A Place to Love Dogs  ♡ A Place to Love Dogs

 

I found this blog that best describes our family situation. Lily’s family is small…as much love and nurturing as any large one…but still her dad & i (her grandma) is her immediate family; with 2 aunts (his sisters) who are AWESOME! Everyone in our little circle steps up to the plate..to give her the best life possible. And her pets, again, absolutely worked at filling any void. They’ve been like siblings, for real.

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A Pet is a Good Choice for a Sibling for an only child

http://www.genonly.com/single-post/2016/1/6/Why-a-pet-could-be-a-better-choice-than-a-sibling-for-your-first-born

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♡ Lily & her daddy

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And her cousins were as close as siblings

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LOVE

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Grandma & Daddy

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Grandma with Lucy during school

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Horses are great too!!!!

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Trust Your Natural Responses

#peace, #love, #gratitude, #God, #guidance, #blogshare, thankful, 

Life Love God

Without ForceExpress yourself completely,
then keep quiet.
Be like the forces of nature:
when it blows, there is only wind;
when it rains, there is only rain;
when the clouds pass, the sun shines through.
If you open yourself to the Tao,
you are at one with the Tao
and you can embody it completely.
If you open yourself to insight,
you are at one with insight
and you can use it completely.
If you open yourself to loss,
you are at one with loss
and you can accept it completely.
Open yourself to the Tao,
then trust your natural responses;
and everything will fall into place.

Tao Te Ching v23

Line and Feather

ComfortComfort

I accept the comfort and strength of God.

A hug from a friend or a call from a loved one reminds me I am not alone. Yet God’s comforting, strengthening presence is with me always, even when friends are…

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Well-Spring Of Truth

#peace, #love, #gratitude, #God, #guidance, #blogshare, thankful, 

Life Love God

ContemplationExpress yourself completely,
then keep quiet.
Be like the forces of nature:
when it blows, there is only wind;
when it rains, there is only rain;
when the clouds pass, the sun shines through.
If you open yourself to the Tao,
you are at one with the Tao
and you can embody it completely.
If you open yourself to insight,
you are at one with insight
and you can use it completely.
If you open yourself to loss,
you are at one with loss
and you can accept it completely.
Open yourself to the Tao,
then trust your natural responses;
and everything will fall into place.

Tao Te Ching v23

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Brand New DayGod’s Light

The light and love of God warm my heart and brighten my days.

During the short days of winter, we see less of the sun, but it hasn’t disappeared. The earth has moved, but the sun is still…

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Guidance

#peace, #love, #gratitude, #God, #guidance, #blogshare, thankful, 

Life Love God

Express yourself completely,
then keep quiet.
Be like the forces of nature:
when it blows, there is only wind;
when it rains, there is only rain;
when the clouds pass, the sun shines through.
If you open yourself to the Tao,
you are at one with the Tao
and you can embody it completely.
If you open yourself to insight,
you are at one with insight
and you can use it completely.
If you open yourself to loss,
you are at one with loss
and you can accept it completely.
Open yourself to the Tao,
then trust your natural responses;
and everything will fall into place.

Tao Te Ching v23

Guidance

In all ways and at all times, God is with me.

When I have a major decision to make, I do not want to limit myself to my past experience or what I have observed in the lives of…

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Gratitude, Humility, Faith

#peace, #love, #gratitude, #God, #guidance, #blogshare, thankful, 

Life Love God

Know Where You Come FromExpress yourself completely,
then keep quiet.
Be like the forces of nature:
when it blows, there is only wind;
when it rains, there is only rain;
when the clouds pass, the sun shines through.
If you open yourself to the Tao,
you are at one with the Tao
and you can embody it completely.
If you open yourself to insight,
you are at one with insight
and you can use it completely.
If you open yourself to loss,
you are at one with loss
and you can accept it completely.
Open yourself to the Tao,
then trust your natural responses;
and everything will fall into place.
Tao Te Ching v23

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Inward BeautyMiracle
I open my heart to receive miracles.
When the angel Gabriel visited Mary to share that she would soon bear a child, she must have experienced shock and wonder as she absorbed the angel’s message.
Mary must have tapped…

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Gratitude

#peace, #love, #gratitude, #God, #guidance, #blogshare, thankful, 

Life Love God

Express yourself completely,
then keep quiet.
Be like the forces of nature:
when it blows, there is only wind;
when it rains, there is only rain;
when the clouds pass, the sun shines through.
If you open yourself to the Tao,
you are at one with the Tao
and you can embody it completely.
If you open yourself to insight,
you are at one with insight
and you can use it completely.
If you open yourself to loss,
you are at one with loss
and you can accept it completely.
Open yourself to the Tao,
then trust your natural responses;
and everything will fall into place.

Tao Te Ching v23

Gratitude

I am grateful for everything.

It is easy to express gratitude when everything appears to be going wonderfully. However, when I feel something is missing or I am uncomfortable, I may lose sight of the good in my life.

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